One thing that I have noticed over the years is that people seem to struggle with being successful. It’s almost as if success is some sort of elusive, intangible that people never achieve. This entire idea came into focus for me recently. Here’s the story…
This weekend I had lunch with a friend of mine who makes roughly $75,000 – $100,000 per month (yes, you read that right) and we were taking about music, business, life and much more. The conversation lead to him asking me a few questions, including: “What do you want out of life….what is your goal?”
My answer was simple: “I want to continue dong what I’m doing with drumming and with Drummer’s Resource and I want to be successful in all other aspects of my life.
Then…..the tough question came:
“Nick, define “successful.” Does successful mean $50K per year? $100K per year, $100K per month? Having enough money in the bank to pay the rent for two months? Travel? What is your definition of success? I make a lot of money but I could make a lot more if I started a few other business ideas that I have but that would force me to work more hours and spend less time with my wife and kids – I don’t want that. My measure of success is the freedom that I have and time I spend with my family, not the money in my bank account.
After a few short seconds, I had my answer.: “I want to play music, travel, spend time with my fiancé and family and have the freedom and flexibility to do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it.” And his response was: “So you’re already successful…congrats!” (which reminded me of the fisherman story)
The conversation completely blew my mind. See, in the midst of trying to keep up with the jones’, buying a bigger house and a more expensive car, we all have to take a moment to ask what we want out of life – what drives and inspires us? At the end of the day, that’s all that truly matters and once we strip away all the noise and concentrate on what is important I think that we can all see things a whole lot clearer.